Listening, a gifted role

L -  LOOK INTO THE EYE 

I  -  INSPIRE THE OTHER PERSON TO SPEAK

S - STAY FOCUSED TO EACH AND EVERY WORD 

T - TRY NOT TO INTERRUPT

E - EMPATHETICALLY DEAL WITH THE OTHER PERSON

N - NULLIFY YOUR FEELINGS.

There is a saying " The first law of love is to listen" . It is definitely true because when we listen, it makes the other person feel cared and more we listen, more the other person shares. When we take time to listen thoughtfully to each and every word and the unsaid word without phrasing our own response, we knowingly or unknowingly offer unconditional love and acceptance by acknowledging "you" are as important and valuable as "me".

Leaving back our ego which says we and our ideas are somehow right and being willing to give attention to others requires effort. This extra effort gives us rewards as we give others an opportunity to be heard. When we feel down or when we are excited we express ourselves with those who really listen to us without interrupting or judging us not with the practical bossy ones. Many a times there are cases where people go to psychologists just to get an opportunity to be heard . They pay and make sure that they are listened. More than the  advise they get, they get a feeling of well being when they feel they are listened . They go home lighthearted and refreshed. It is because when we  pour out our problem to someone, we will know what to do about it our self.

How can one become a better listener? It is hard yet worth to be. Willing to listen is not just enough . One must really listen. Only then the magic begins. True listeners are those who allow you to be yourself no matter what , even at your very worst. They laugh and get delighted with any manifestation of yourself may be good or bad because they know if you are bad tempered you are not always so .They do not love you just when you are nice, they love all of you. When a person is angry , they listen to his ache .When a person is sad , they listen to his pain and  this true listener becomes much more beloved.

Listening is gifted and a great role, but not talking. When we try to listen to people we love and to people whom we do not, miracles do happen. It is because of listening we love people at once and are loved by them.